New to the Sex Industry? Here’s Your ‘How-To’ Guide: Escorts Edition - Part I
You Have the Right to Say ‘No’
Of all the advice shared, this is the most important: you always have the right to say ‘no.’
During my time managing two busy Melbourne brothels, I formed strong friendships with many incredible escorts. Sadly, over 90% of them had experienced situations where previous employers pressured them to ignore their boundaries.
Let’s be clear: your consent is non-negotiable. No employer, manager, or client has the right to make you do anything you’re uncomfortable with. If an establishment does not respect your right to say ‘no,’ that’s a red flag, and you should consider working elsewhere.
Understanding Intros & Setting Boundaries
If you’re working in an establishment, you’ll likely encounter the term ‘intro.’ But what does it mean? What’s expected of you? Can you decline a client right away?
An intro is your chance to introduce yourself and explain the services you offer. It’s also an opportunity for the client to ask questions (e.g. “Do you offer kissing?”). Intros are usually brief—30 seconds to a couple of minutes at most.
But here’s the key: you’re assessing the client just as much as they’re assessing you.
Pay attention to their behaviour:
Are they respectful and engaged, or dismissive and rude?
Do they seem interested in you, or are they distracted on their phone?
If something feels off, trust your gut. You do not have to accept every booking.
What Should You Do If You Feel Uneasy?
Speak to the manager. Let them know privately why you’d prefer not to see that client.
A professional, well-run establishment will respect your decision without question.
If the manager tries to pressure you into taking the booking, that’s a major red flag. Consider finding a workplace that values your safety.
As Rachel, our expert escort, puts it: “If you feel uncomfortable and your support team doesn’t have your back, it’s time to move on. There are places that will 100% support you. This is our body. This is our right.”
What If Things Go Wrong in the Room?
Even if an intro goes smoothly, sometimes things change once you’re in the room.
If a client pushes boundaries, stay calm and stand firm.
If it’s a simple misunderstanding, politely but firmly state: “That is not part of my service.”
If they persist, do not show fear or discomfort—stay assertive.
A good exit strategy is to excuse yourself under the guise of retrieving more condoms or lube, then immediately inform the manager.
If you ever feel physically unsafe, use the panic button that every legal establishment is required to have in their rooms.
Final Thoughts
At the end of the day, your safety and autonomy come first. You have every right to set boundaries, decline clients, and work only in environments that respect you.
If an establishment does not prioritise your well-being, there are better options out there. Melbourne has many safe, supportive workplaces where you’ll feel valued and protected.
Your body, your rules—always.
Stay tuned for Part II