New to the Sex Industry? Here’s Your ‘How-To’ Guide: Escorts Edition - Part III

Confidence, Knowing Your Boundaries & Being Comfortable in Yourself.

From a young age, especially as girls, we’re often told to love ourselves and feel confident in our own skin. The same applies in the sex industry—in fact, confidence is even more crucial in this line of work. Your success often depends on how you present yourself and how comfortable you are with your boundaries. Let’s hear from Rachel, who has years of experience in the industry:

“Confidence is key. While an introduction is about selling your services, it’s also about selling yourself. You need to be engaging, confident, inviting, fun, and desirable. You want the client to book YOU and no one else. In a brothel setting, where you could be up against 5–30+ other women, standing out is essential. The best advice I give to other practitioners? Just be yourself. Clients can easily spot when someone is putting on a facade.”

Confidence in Your Services

Being comfortable with the services you offer is just as important as being confident in yourself. Stick to what you know and what feels natural to you—confidence follows when you’re comfortable with what you’re offering.

At the same time, knowing your boundaries is just as, if not more, important than knowing your services. Your boundaries define what you are and aren’t comfortable with. For example, you may decide you’re not comfortable with kissing or you don’t allow clients to finish on your body—both are valid boundaries. Every woman in this industry has the right to say no to any activity they don’t feel comfortable with, and clients must respect that at all times.

Rachel shares her perspective:

“It’s okay to have boundaries—we all do. However, I always remind new practitioners that too many restrictions can lead to fewer bookings. Most clients are understanding as long as you clearly communicate your limitations from the start. There’s nothing wrong with saying, ‘I apologise, I don’t offer that service.’ Sometimes, I even recommend another practitioner better suited to their needs. But in my experience, the less you offer, the less you book. Clients want variety and to have fun with their chosen companion. If there are too many limitations, they’ll simply book someone else. However, that doesn’t mean you should compromise on your boundaries—you should always feel comfortable with what you’re providing. Staying firm and consistent is a MUST.”

Boundaries Can Change Over Time

Just because you set certain boundaries now doesn’t mean they can’t change in the future. Some practitioners adjust their limits over time, while others vary their services depending on the client.

Rachel explains:

“I’ve worked with practitioners who have changed their boundaries multiple times. Some feel more comfortable offering extra services with certain clients, while others stick firmly to their limitations. Either way is perfectly okay, as long as YOU’RE in control at all times.”

At the end of the day, confidence, knowing your boundaries, and being comfortable in yourself are essential for thriving in the sex industry. Own your choices, stand by your boundaries, and never feel pressured into something that doesn’t align with your comfort level. The right clients will always respect you for it.